Children experience traumatic events that affect their behavioral, mental and emotional health. Post-traumatic stress disorder is not a “Veterans Only” issue; anyone can suffer it.
By Haneefa J. Walton
Brian and his girls
Emily and Elizabeth were 3 and 5-years old in 2014 when they were taken from their father’s home in Colorado by their mother after their parents separated.
Brian Winchel, a combat veteran; serving two tours in Iraq and the girls’ father, said that the bad period for him happened shortly after he left the military.
“It was a hard time for me,” Winchel said. “For three long months, I didn’t know where my babies were.
When Winchel located the girls in Washington, he made the roughly 1350 mile trip from Colorado to rescue them. He said that his daughters had been physically, emotionally, mentally and sexually abused.
“ I found out after returning to Colorado that my babies came back to me with high-risk HPV,” Winchel said. “ I feel like I failed them.”
Winchel put his daughters in counseling shortly after he returned from Colorado and they were diagnosed with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder related to the 3-months they spent with their mother.
Not just for veterans
PTSD is commonly thought of as a veteran disability. However, according to the National Institute for Mental Health, “Anyone can develop PTSD at any age.” Children are experiencing direct and indirect violence, bullying, tragic events and various forms of abuse. These traumatic experiences have significant impacts on a child’s emotional and behavioral health.
Dr. Julie Albert, a psychiatrist who specializes in PTSD, said the symptoms of a child with PTSD are not necessarily the same as in adults and may be misconstrued as defiance or a behavior problem. Albert said that finding out what brought on the change in behavior is critical because a lot of times the children or adolescents cannot or will not talk about what is bothering them.
Teenagers tend to show the same symptoms as adults but they can also show signs of risking taking behavior, withdrawal, defiance or a loss of interest in things they once enjoyed.
“It can be somewhat challenging because teenagers are often seen as just being teenagers,” said Albert. “Therefore, the symptoms may be overlooked.”
In a 2019 article, written by Melinda Smith, M.A., Lawrence Robinson, Robert Segal, M.A., and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D., for the website, Healthguide.org, the doctors list eight symptoms of PTSD in young children that include: separation from their parent, skills regression (such as toilet training), phobias and anxieties that seem unrelated to the trauma (such as fear of monsters) and acting out the trauma through play, stories, or drawings.
Caleb Keith
Caleb Keith, now 24, said when he was young, he would draw superheroes.
“I was abused by my brother’s dad,” Kieth said. “ I drew superheroes all the time because I wish I had their power so I could protect myself.”
Keith is the oldest between him and his brother. Kieth said he and his brother were both abused. He recalls that the abuse began when he was 3-years old. He said he still has nightmares. He recalls the bruises and knots on his head from being punched by his brother’s father.
“The knots were as big as golf balls,” Kieth said. “He would tell everybody that I got bit by a mosquito and I was allergic if anyone asked about them.”
Keith was 11-years old when his mother divorced his brother’s dad. He said the 8-year abuse he experienced kept him from doing other things that children his age were doing.
“My mom was always saying that I don’t act my age, when I was 16 she said I acted like I was 11,” Keith said, “ I didn’t play sports at all, I watched cartoons and drew pictures.”
He said that he has anger and anxiety issues and he needed help because the trauma still affects his life.
“I just started therapy and so far so good,” Keith said. “ I am finally facing my demons.”
Help Needed
Albert advises that after any sort of traumatic event a child may have experienced it is good to have them seek counseling if just for a short time. Most important monitor their behavior. Some children show signs shortly following the event, sometimes its something that will trigger a change.
Keith, just like Winchel’s daughters, experienced trauma from a parent. When a child loses the trust of a parent, the child is left fending for him or herself. In a Facebook post in the closed support group for PTSD, a 14-year old posted a message of help:
I’m 14 and I don’t know what to do anymore. My family doesn’t understand and don’t try to understand. It’s like I’m invisible when it comes to my feelings. My parents never cared before they died. People say parents are supposed to protect you but my parent did not. I have constant flashbacks they never leave. My family always mention they guys who did stuff to me. Some were family and some were strangers.
In a situation like the 14-year old Facebook poster, Albert said that the Crisis Text Line or the Suicide Prevention hotline would be able a good start. They have resources and everything is kept confidential. Also, the website Psychguides.com has information and a list of telephone numbers to call not just during a crisis but for emotional support as well.
“It’s sad when parents don’t want to acknowledge that a child may need help and not just attention seeking,” Albert said. “ Just because you can’t see a disability or problem does not mean there isn’t one.”
Happily ever after

Emily and Elizabeth are now 8 and 10-years old. They are in talk therapy with integrated animal therapy.
Winchel said after much trial and error, he found the woman who understands the trauma that his daughters have been through because she too has experienced abuse.
“She has an understanding what they are dealing with that even I don’t,” Winchel said. “The girls, especially my oldest, have opened up with her with some very sad and disturbing disclosures.
Winchel said that when he and his new wife, Jennifer, exchanged vows, she said vows to him and his girls.
“She is the only person who has ever truly loved and wanted them,” Winchel said.








